Normative Patterns

It's an interesting trend that all my conversations about my success (or lack thereof) with women end up being discussions about my personal philosophy and ethics. They're so intertwined and dependent on each other. The values I have in relationships are the primary foundation of my moral reasoning. I have my illogical quirks - I'm terribly paranoid about breaching a person's physical comfort zone - but I consider my moral reasoning to be a pivotal part of my ability to behave responsibly, with an understanding of the full and complete ramifications of my actions.

Modern relationships are built on deception, misdirection, illusion and delusion, To build something different, it must be formed differently. An honest and sincere relationship must do away with all of the illusory components of modern relationships, and instead be built on principles such as honesty, openness, trust and understanding. Yet, the irony of this is that in pursuing relationships in that fashion I am setting myself up for failure. The common woman (or perhaps all women, I've yet to meet one who deviates from this pattern) will expect modern relationship behaviors. When she doesn't get them, she will assume the relationship is invalid on some level and dispose of it. Since I will never start a relationship on lies, I will continually be considered to be invalid as relationship material.

Not a pleasant thought.

It's frustrating because so many women profess to be beyond modern gender roles, yet when it comes to some basic interactions and expectations, it's a lie. Where are the courageous women? Those that bold to be who they are, outside of the ever-present gaze of society? Those who have the courage to question what society teaches them? Or has societies lessons become so ingrained that they've confused societies mandates with their own feelings? In that eventuality, are women so blind that they can't distinguish between an authentic feeling and a social meme?

Sad, but I believe that the latter is the truth. Society has effectively brainwashed women into following an internal feeling that society itself has created. It's like the desire for independence, it's an artificially and socially imbued desire that people have acclimated to so strongly that the need to be independent has been normalized into the human condition, when instead it's a social meme.

*sigh* where are the women who actually bother to look beyond the trivialities of what society imposes on them, and who dare to relate beyond social conditioning? This goes beyond the 80/20 rule, where 20% of a population is actually free thinkers. Then again Milgram's experiments were about much more radical deviations from the social norms, and not tests asking people to deviate frm the social norms. How must the experiment, and the results change if that criteria is changed?

*sigh*

Ultimately it makes for one lonely Jason.